Saturday, February 4, 2012

It is Somewhat Complicated

Who wants to have a complicated situation or relationship? Nobody wants to be on a situation that can really drive you crazy sometimes or most of the time.


When someone enter into a relationship, we sure hope for a lasting one.We hope to be committed or married rather than having a complicated one. But some relationship, does not always work the way we plan or even want. Feeling may change, for some reason that is not so easy to understand sometimes.


Who wants to be in a complicated situation or relationship? Nobody wants to be on a situation that can really drive you crazy sometimes or most of the time.


We  can be just friends or we can be lovers, we can be married,single or divorce. But most of the time it is Complicated or not sure where we stand  how it is doing at the moment!


Like one moment it is doing well and then the next day, it is not. Lovers put complications into their relationship, instead of trying to work it smoothly. And sometime, it is really just like that! The moment we say it is complicated, we know already something is not right.  I don’t know why we all hang on to something we know were better off letting go, it must be because of what we call LOVE, complicated but still hoping!


You should have plans, focus and driven to what you really want in your relationship. It is not all about having fun, it is about wanting for it to work out in way you both want, or else it will get boring. It gets tiring, boring and it does not feel good. And we say because we love a person we just accept as it is, but we should not. We just have to say how we feel and when we feel it. The relationship is not about just the other person, it is also about you, it is about your relationship. Saying how you exactly feel will either make or break but not saying anything will not do any good as well. It is like having a candy but not liking how it taste.


What might be complicated for us, might not be to our partners, so it is best to open up on how you feel about things. We do not want to create our own ghost and be afraid. Never complicate things that are not really complicated.


It can get boring sometimes if we do same thing in our relationship, there should be changes and what they call the next level. However, we are sometimes scared of changes, especially when it comes to what we call “stable” or getting serious in a relationship already. 


But is it really stable, or do we just sit there and watch things happens, hoping for it to change, not realizing that it is actually killing what we hope would Grow into more meaningful relationship.


Some relationship or maybe most relationship goes through tough times. And some survived and some just have to say good bye.


Started from being stable and then the complications arises. You see all the beautiful things, you are in love and you are happy, so why complicate it? 
When we get too comfortable with the relationship, we tend to ignore the room for growth, for reason that we feel it is Good already.


However, in my opinion, we should always find ways to improved, enhanced what is already there.


Loving is not expecting the other person to be perfect for you but we should also try to add more spice to what we already have. People change, feeling grows or die. Never missed the chance of keeping the love burning. There should always be something to look forward too, esp. if you been with your partner long time. 


Make plans, be it simple, be it grand. Keep it alive. Nobody like looking on a blank wall anyways and asking why, what or where?  Although we have different ways of showing our love and caring, we should always need to be sure how he/she feels in the relationship. Never assume.


And our common mistakes is not telling how we really feel because we worry that it would hurt him/her. That she will not understand but if we are in a relationship, we should be open to communications. Might not be easy for other because  there are some who tries to avoid those kinds of topics.


It is when we feel that our relationship is changing but not for the better, that we should do something right away, for ignoring it might turn our relationship into a “Somewhat Complicated.”  



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41 comments:

  1. I never had any complications relationship, I only prayed for him and God gave me a wonderful love

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    1. That is good then, most relationship goes to some complication sometimes and they just have to stay strong to keep it going.

      And Your right putting God on the center of any relationship is a great foundation!

      Thanks for the comment!

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  2. I have had a complicated relationship, and I finally ended it last year. It was horrible, considering that we had a 10year relationship. Feeling ko, naibasura ang lahat-lahat na ginawa namin to make the relationship work. But well.. love only works if both are willing to MAKE it work. Sabi mo nga.. "to keep the love burning." Apparently, ako lang pala mag-isa ang may gusto. It was complicated, indeed.. and it gave me more hurt and pain than it gave me joy and kilig moments. So it was better that we went our separate ways.

    God has a plan for me.. And I know I will find my Prince Charming, one day.. someday. :)

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    1. I think if you have been holding and you no longer feeling happy talaga, it is time to move on na diba. And if your partner is no longer willing to work it out with you or di na sya happy or vise versa, then why stay. Oh well ganyan talaga siguro ang love, nakakalito and hard to define.

      Wow 10 years daming happy memories noon, pero isipin mo nlang na atleast naging part sya ng buhay mo diba....part of life.

      And yes of course, there will be another prince charming for you, sure ako doon!

      Stay Happy nalang!

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  3. I had one before and it was freaking crazy. Really? It's like you can't deal with it anymore, but you're still trying because you wanted to save the relationship you have even there's only a tiny piece of love left.

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    1. Yup it can drive us crazy and wonder why we keep holding on, then we realize nga, kse sayang pinag samahan diba....Pro there is really time, we need to let go and move on..not easy but we can!

      thanks

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  4. "When we get too comfortable with the relationship, we tend to ignore the room for growth, for reason that we feel it is “Good” already." - This is so true. And sometimes we don't do the extra mile for the other person like we used to when the relationship was still budding. Maintaining relationships can really be a tough ordeal.

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    1. Yup we tend to take our partners for granted, kse nga comfortable na tayo sa dati na nating ginagawa, pero dapat keep building and keep improving the relationship.

      Sbi nga keep it burning,hehe!

      thanks

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  5. I am in a complicated relationship. It maybe miserable but I am perfectly happy in my misery-- reason enough for me to hold on.

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    1. As long you are happy and she is happy and you feel you can still work it out diba, why not.

      Good reason to hold on nga!

      thank you

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  6. hmmmm. the bottomline is our decisions in life shapes our future so it is really important to decide when you are emotionally stable. If you are too much in love that is unstable. Let must think many times before coming to decisions. Well, that's part of our life however and we grow more mature through this predicaments and trials. :)) Life goes on!

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    1. And yup life is make out of choice, we just need to make sure we like what we are doing and hopefully it is the right thing din.

      Thanks Ed

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  7. Complicated relationship. What makes it complicated? Why is it complicated? If you know it's complicated then why still go through with it? O_o

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    1. Siguro some nga still hoping for things to be better or because they love the person and we all know letting go is never easy.

      But your right, what is the complications that complicate it, so depende siguro neh?

      thank u

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  8. i'm lucky because i never had complicated relationship. i just prayed and waited for the right guy, even it took me years. there's no perfect relationships, it's how you accept the imperfections that make it perfect. =)

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    1. Your right there is really no perfect relationship!

      Im glad you dont have complicated relationship!

      For others that has, it is how you handle and deal with it. Mine is complicated and drives me crazy,lols!

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  9. thanks for this post, i had been this before but luckily i got a big hope on my mind because my mind set is GOD is bigger than my suffering so i double my effort

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    1. Thanks for the comment!

      And it is good you put God first and everything works out fine,nothing is impossible with him diba.

      And Love is Great!

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  10. sad but your right .
    I'm used to this phares "IT's COMPLICATED"
    but not in me . My friends had this crazy and stressful relationship.
    i'm lucky I can manage my lovelife well !

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    1. Yes it is stressful indeed!

      Im glad you can manage well, and sometimes i am creating a problem that is not really there din or some of us are.

      Ay nako, LOve life nga naman neh!

      Thanks for the commen Jhackie!

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  11. wow are you talking to me?? reading your post is like having you face to face lecturing me.. hehe..;( i've been in a very complicated relationship for so long.. it's just so difficult to give up... ;( haist..

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    1. haha you can relate right? Have you finally given up or maybe there is till hope for some changes?

      Yup is it never easy giving up!

      Thanks for the comment!

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  12. Complicated relationship among lovers is unavoidable. It's pride and self conceit that are working to destroy relationship as mentioned among lovers. Humility, consideration and meekness are key virtues in overcoming this kind of dilemma.

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  13. Complications in relationships are test - take it or leave it. It depends on how you manage or solve these complications that in return may strengthen or loosen the partnership.

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  14. Sana nagkaron din ako ng isang "complicated" relationship para alam ko din yung feeling *smiiiiile

    For 5 years kasi wala pa kong nakitang complication sa una at malamang huling girlfriend ko, haha. Anyway highway, thanks for this mam, who knows, dumaan pa ko sa ganyan pagdating ko ng 30 n_n

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  15. love is never a feeling but a decision and commitment.. irregardless of all complications :)

    [thanks for liking my post in the thread, but can't see your comment :( thanks anyway!:)]

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    1. I did comment, i think it is on another post but if not i will make it up to you next time okey..but im sure i commented on one of your post!I will check,,hehe peace!

      thanks for the comment here!

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  16. Love is as complicated as you make it to be. I always believe that love is simple lang, it is our actions, choices and decisions that make it so complicated. Very nice post:)

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  17. I used to enjoy complicated relationships a few years back. Its fun while it lasted though =)

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  18. Aren't relationships complicated by nature? After all, there are 2 very different individuals involved. :)

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  19. Relationships become more and more complicated when we don't face it. Most of the time, we really have to learn to let go, especially if it becomes very detrimental already. I was in a very complicated relationship not long ago, but although it really hurts (until now), it was better than just fooling ourselves.

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  20. Relationships are too complicated for me period.

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  21. Complications and problems do not hinder a relationship from progressing, it is a tool that helps both partners to grow and realize why they went into that commitment in the first place.

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  22. i never waste my time in complicated relationships.. if i feel our situation will be getting there, i will hit my button STOP. Life is too short to waste your time.. STOP and move-on, chances are they are lots of good relationships you will miss if you continue the complicated one.

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  23. Most of my earlier relationships were not complicated ... only the one with my child's Dad was ... so now, I'm just resting.

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  24. Sabi nila relationships are not complicated, it's just the people around who make it complicated. I don't really know what to say coz I'm not in a relationship and trust me, I feel alright. :)

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  25. Tita Rhed! This article is definitely interesting to read. You really have a lot to say about relationships huh? heheh :))

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    1. Oo some base on experience and some base on what i see from other people relationship,ung mga chicka chicka ba,hehe!

      Thanks for the comment!

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  26. One thing I learned in relationships is that couples or individuals should always have an open line for communication. It is one great key for a harmonious relationship. Couples should learn to talk and share and listen to each other so they can understand what the other person needs to make everything work. Nobody is perfect and no relationship is even perfect. Everyone should do their work to make it less complicated.

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  27. That is so true. No one like to be in a complicated relationship. But sometimes people change. People grow and in the process outgrow the relationship. If you are in a complicated relationship I think both of you should move on, so as to give each other a better chance to be happy.

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